I’m not sure why I’ve written these thoughts on chaos. I think what’s prompted it is an exchange in that supremely intelligent film The Anatomy of a Fall in the course of which the heroine, accused of murdering her husband, makes this spirited defence of marital havoc to the prosecuting counsel - ‘I don't know you, and you come here with your notes and explain to me who Samuel was, and what we were going through... But what you say is not reality. There are times when a couple is a kind of chaos, when everybody is lost.’
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